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Ep 106: Farewell Mr. Nice Guy- MNG (Full Transcript)

Updated: Apr 30




Jey (00:17.806)

they're excited I'm excited welcome into another episode of the Young Dad podcast excited to be with you happy to be with you happy healthy thriving all the things before we jump too far into the podcast today I do just want to invite and encourage and twist your arm just a little bit to go down to the description of the episode no matter where you're watching YouTube rumble

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I'm not trying to get an email list to sell it off or anything like that. So please subscribe and enjoy the newsletter. So that's all I got at the top. So without further ado, let me introduce our guest today. I'm Mr. Nice Guy on the show. Mr. Nice Guy, you run the podcast Farewell, Mr. Nice Guy, a podcast about fatherhood, navigating the court system, and a variation of other topics. And that's pretty much the gist of it.

So tell us about you tell us about the podcast tell us about the origins of it And yeah, tell us about you as a dad, too

MNG (01:45.123)

Yeah.

MNG (01:55.363)

Okay, well, you can call me MNG. Like, Mr. Nice Guy, I love it. So the podcast, so Fairway with Mr. Nice Guy came about. I was, my mom had actually told me that I should start a podcast. And I had did previous podcasts. I was on this one podcast called Skip the Formalities. And then I was managing and producing that one with a group of friends.

And we were kind of playing around. So we did about like 40 episodes there. And I kind of fell in love with the podcast type of thing because we was already doing it in a circle. We were getting a circle, had these conversations and it'd be really in -depth conversations. And somebody one day was like, well, we should just start a podcast. And I was like, okay, cool. So it took a few months for us to actually get together. We got together and eventually it fell apart. So I was invited onto another podcast with another group of people.

And I really didn't care how they was doing their podcast. And I was like, okay, well, that's cool. But I still had that podcast bug. So my mom was like, well, you should go ahead and start your own podcast. I'm like, well, what am I going to talk about? I have nothing to talk about. And she was like, well, you love to talk. I'm like, okay, well. I was like, to have a GIF of Gab is good, but when you ain't got nothing to talk about, like, what are you going to talk about? So.

I was watching, I was looking at my son and I was like, man, I have a great story. I took custody of my son. I walked through the court system. I worked for the court system. So I had the best of both worlds to be able to go and tell your man how to either avoid or succeed in this system. So, Farewell Mr. Nice Guy was actually a blog site that I had.

where I was also telling my story on a blog site. So and one of the things, because I love to write. So I was typing out my story and I was like, the blog was the blog was good, but it wasn't getting traction. So I had the name, but it was a blog first. And then I was like, well, let me turn into a YouTube channel. Well, let me just turn into well, turn into Spotify first. Then I turn into a YouTube channel and it's like, all right, well, I know all of this production stuff like I was.

MNG (04:17.539)

I was doing cartoons first and I was producing my cartoons. So I knew all the production value, knew all that stuff. And then it was like, okay, well, now you can apply this to a YouTube channel. You could tell your story. And I just have been having a blast with telling my story, meeting other individuals that are in the same situation or have been, have been associated with some situation or the system. And they've been able to tell their stories and building that network.

And it's been such a joy and a pleasure to be a part of a network where I felt alone for so many years. If that makes sense.

Jey (04:57.23)

Mm -hmm. No, 100 % definitely does make sense because I've been there. I've been through it. I've been through a divorce. I've been through navigating the court system. I've been through it in a couple different ways now three years later, three years removed from where it initially started. And initially, it was just me going to court, going through all the court motions, things like that that you have to do.

And now in my job, I've worked for the last year. I work in mental health. I work with youth and families. And so I've had the opportunity to go and support families in court. So I've been on like the other side, kind of seeing it through this outside lens, outside looking in, being able to sit in the courtroom during these different trials and these hearings and hear it go down essentially in real time, different situations, what it looks like, how it plays out.

you know, helping families get their ducks in a row, essentially, their court paperwork together. So I've seen it really interesting now. And it's a it's a lonely road to walk. It's scary. It's scary at the same time because it's.

How do you, how do I even say it? Like it's scary because...

Jey (06:18.318)

It's scary for fathers, you know what I mean? Like it's scary for fathers because you don't know what's going to happen. You hear stories your entire life pretty much and it's something that you honestly, at least for me, you try to avoid no matter what because you don't want to do it because you know what's likely going to happen. Especially when you take the political aspects of it, you add politics into it and everything like that.

MNG (06:24.771)

Right.

Jey (06:44.878)

You look at and then you just like zoom in even further. You look at your local level. You look at your local landscape, your local community, what the outcome likely could be based on your county that you live in. You zoom in that far. And it's terrifying for a dad to go through that process because A, no one educates you on how to do it. B, no one tells you how expensive it's going to be. You hear different stories.

MNG (07:09.763)

Nope.

Jey (07:15.982)

And see, no one tells you how mentally draining it's going to be. No one tells you how much time you're going to need to take off work. No one tells you how much paperwork you're going to need to do. No one tells you how hard it is to find an attorney to represent you. No one tells you how much that attorney costs off of that. There's no like guide to it to say like, look, this is how much an attorney should cost. If they're trying to charge you more than this, they're trying to screw you.

And then when you are talking to attorneys, there's so many out there that are just shady. You know what I mean? Like some are out there like, oh, so we're trying to take her down. We try to screw over. We try to do this, that, or the other to him hurts. Like, I just want to be able to see my kids, you know? Kind of thing, so.

MNG (08:00.291)

And, and let me tell you this. So when I, now I started my case against me or myself, I started, I started my own case. Okay. And you would think that because I started my case, I would be the plaintiff, right? No, I started my own case and I became the defendant. How does a defendant start their own case against them? So when I did go get an attorney and try to have a conversation with the attorney,

When we get to court, he didn't say nothing. The judge primarily talked to me. He just stood there and I'm like, so I paid you $1 ,500 to come and stand in this nice suit you're wearing for nothing. The most he did was broker a conversation with my son's mother to tell her that she should let him come along with me. And the only thing she wanted was $100 a month just to release custody.

And that was it. And he did nothing. That's about the only thing he of value that he did for $1 ,500. And without that, I'd probably be standing there still arguing in court. So I don't believe that you need an attorney to go to court. But I do believe that you need an attorney for advisement. They can advise you on what you need to do. But the problem with advisement is that they're going to charge you to come in and have a conversation. When you go in there and have the conversation,

Jey (09:15.47)